A husband and wife decided that they wanted to move from their present location. So, one day the husband went to a new town to take a look around. As he was walking down the street he passed a church and saw the minister of that church sweeping the sidewalk.
The husband went up to the minister and said, “Excuse me, may I ask you a question?”
“Certainly, what is it?” the minister replied.
“Well my wife and I are tired of where we live and we’ve decided to move.” Pausing a moment, the man looked around and then continued, “And I just wanted to find out what type of people live in this town.”
The minister lightly leaned, “Well, that’s an interesting question.” Now pausing himself, the minister asked, “Well, let me ask you…what type of people live in your town now?”
The husband replied, “Oh they are the worse. Those people are incredibly rude and ignorant. In fact, we moved there from another city that we thought was pretty much the same way, but these people take the cake. I can’t think of one person in that town that I would want for a friend or a neighbor.”
The minister looked at the man and wisely said, “Well sir, you will probably find the same type of people living here too.”
This story gives new meaning to the phrase – wherever you go, there you are. No matter where this husband and wife chose to live they would still find the same kind of people that they had always found. Not because the towns in which they lived were made up of rude and ignorant people, but because this husband and wife were rude and ignorant themselves. What they found in each town was merely a reflection of themselves
Many people leave their jobs or families and expect the new job or new relationships to be totally different from their past job or relationship. Oftentimes, they place the blame of their unhappiness on other people or situations as opposed to looking at themselves first. Soon, they become unhappy and they pack up and try again – usually with the same result.
Don’t get me wrong, sometimes you do need to leave a job or relationship, but before you do – make sure that it is for the right reason and that there is nothing that you could do to correct or improve the current situation. Sometimes before you put the blame on others…you might need to take a good look at yourself first.