You were given one gift that all other sentient beings do not possess and that is the gift of choice. All other creatures are guided by instinct. But as a human, the one gift that makes you different from all other creatures is the power to choose.
No matter what has happened in the past or is happening to you right now, you can always choose how you will respond to that event or situation. You may allow yourself to be guided by emotion or intelligence. Few are guided by intellect, which is the understanding of what truly needs to be done and then choosing to do so.
You can not always control what has happened to you in the past or what is occurring right now. But, as mentioned, you can always decide how you will respond to any event. You can always choose how to think, speak and act.
The next move is ALWAYS Yours!