If you take away the cell phone, the tablet, the TV or even a book, how long could you sit still and do nothing? That could be quite a challenge for most people, myself included (even though I am trying to do that when I can).
The point is that many times we get bored if we are not being active, and especially if we are by ourselves. If you look at your phone, you’re not REALLY alone, because you’re either checking mail or news, shopping, looking at Facebook or Instagram, etc. All of these outlets tie you to something or someone.
The same goes for watching TV or reading a book – you’re connected to someone or something. It’s true, if you just sit still and watch the world go by from a window, you are still connected or tied to something or someone, yet… it is somehow different.
So, what do you do to be alone and not bored? Here’s what I do:
- Put down the phone, turn off the TV and set aside that book or paper.
- Leave your thoughts, worries or concerns where they are.
- Take a deep breathe and then a few more.
- Take a moment to let the monkey mind’s endless chatter die down.
- Place a smile on your face.
- Look forward and focus on one object – just a portion of it… and really look at it.
- Keep smiling and breathing.
- In a minute or two, find another object and zero in on just a small part of it.
- Smile and breathe.
Now you’re alone and you can’t be bored, because you’re not even thinking about being alone or thinking about yourself or anything else. You are just there or, actually, you’re here… now.